Love this bandwagon...

Hi there...it's been awhile, I know. I've been busy. At the moment, I'm using wine corks to make the backsplash in my kitchen.  I'm quite archaic about it - I have 3 band-aids on one hand and my other hand is sore from pressing down on my specialized "tool" - a steak knife - to split the 400 or so corks I've collected over the years. It's coming along well though.  I have 3 feet or so at the moment covered and it looks good - but I know that's not why you check in to read this thing...

I read an article in Creative Loafing last week. I'd gotten away from reading the journal, if that's what you want to call it, in recent years at it seems to be quite political in most of it's articles (at least to me) but I needed newspaper as I was going to flea bomb my apartment, so I grabbed a couple on the way home from my walk.  I decided against the flea bombing (since I didn't know how to turn off my gas and didn't really feel like trying to figure it out) and put one of the papers in the bathroom - where I do most of my reading.

I came across an article in the sex part of the paper called "No Sex For You" written by Melysa Martinez.  She went on to talk about how men shouldn't just think that sex is a normal part of dating and I couldn't decide if I was more enamored by the fact that she was writing about such a high personal standard in the sex part of a public newspaper or that she was making such great points about how the mindset of many men was changing to reasonable and normal.  I've had guys ask me if I want to see their "member" - just to see it - as if viewing it will drive me in to a sex frenzy and make me attack them, reverse my ultimate and intitial decision, and have my way with them.  But I've had a couple of good guys (I can count of half of one hand) that have not attacked me at the first sign of being alone.

I always want to think the best of men but there are SO MANY that mess things up the first chance they get.  I have a good male friend right now that has gone out with a young girl a couple of times and thinks he's taking it too slow.  Taking it slow is not a bad thing.  Too many times men think that women are wined and then they get to dine on them, like it's the natural order of things.  And too many times, women think that since the dude spent so much money on them, they can't really say no.  I've felt that way and it took a lot of courage to say what I really felt.

But it seems like the rest of womanhood is jumping on the bandwagon and some of the more intelligent of the male species are also starting to think like humans.  Sex doesn't mean absolute fun.  Yes, it relieves stress but so does exercise and laughter.  Getting to know each other can make for so much more in the long run.  Friendship, good times, laughter, (and even exercise) can be the pay off if you just act normal and keep your hands to yourself...