Experiment Backstory

One of my best guy friends (BGF) – Adam, was most like me: nerdy with a hint of naiveté.  We often conspired artistically so it was easy to have conversation about sensitive things without the embarrassment of never having introduced that slice into the friendship.  When I mentioned during soccer practice one day that I was thinking of dating again, he took his position as sounding board and asked me questions that I needed to answer out loud.  What was I looking for?  Why now?  When I answered that my main objective was warm companionship that would pay for my dinners and entertainment, he jokingly called me a “Dinner-digger” and moved on.  From then on our outings became testing sessions and he was my eyes and ears.  He told me that men did look at me but didn’t approach because I looked “through” them.  He let me know what kind of looks worked and what didn’t.  He picked out certain men to flirt with and let me know what my objectives and standards were.  A stout Buddhist, he surprised me by telling me to pray about it (because of my faith) and assured me that he was there to support me and that I would find a guy that would suit me and not be gay or best friend material.   His sparring paid off in the end.  I grew in confidence and went out all the time open and “available”.  By November, I was tired of practice.  I consciously decided to try some of my newly activated skills on a live subject.

Point is: Every single girl I know has a BGF that she confides in and periodically asks if he has any friends that she would be interested in.  The answer is always no because of various reasons but we can use them for the eyes and ears that they are and the fact that they’re honest with us.  I did and it worked in my favor.