A Side Note...

Sometimes (well a lot, when I listen) I come across some wisdom from people that you would never think had it like you.  I was home sick last Friday and had to watch TV (the only time I do) which means I was at the mercy of whatever was being broadcast.  Fortunately, there's RTV (Retro Television) and an old episode of Voyagers! was on where Phineas Bogg and Jeffrey were on the Titanic with Molly Brown.  Later, I looked up the life of the "Unsinkable Molly Brown" who's name was actually Margaret. She had an interesting life. Grew up poor but seemed a little more in tune with life as we know it than most people you read about from that time.  What got me though, was what she said about her choice and mindset behind getting married in 1854.  It was profound.  Here's what she said:

"I wanted a rich man, but I loved Jim Brown. I thought about how I wanted comfort for my father and how I had determined to stay single until a man presented himself who could give to the tired old man the things I longed for him. Jim was as poor as we were, and had no better chance in life. I struggled hard with myself in those days. I loved Jim, but he was poor. Finally, I decided that I'd be better off with a poor man whom I loved than with a wealthy one whose money had attracted me. So I married Jim Brown."

Now, of course, this is from wikipedia (who you're not supposed to trust but I do sometimes and in this particular instance).  But the fact that she "struggled hard with" herself in 1854 - a time where you figured women didn't have much say so or opinion about their choices to build a life with someone.  I assumed it would be a no-brainer.  But she felt like most women today when you have a choice between someone you like/love and what you want out of life.  They had a good life together, it seems.  It turned out that he made mega-bucks eventually so I'm sure she was glad she loved him first.

Just thought I'd throw that out there.  Sometimes we hold off really loving someone because we think we can do better.  I guess it can work out for the best if you just jump in too.